We have internet again (after several weeks of attempting to post – unsuccessfully!)! Thank goodness! I apologize for the delay, but this summer has been – unexpected.
A few weeks ago, my father-in-law passed away unexpectedly. We have had to take some time to re-focus, remember, and re-prioritize. There’s that word again…I tell you, learning to adjust to curves in life is never-ending – no matter how big or small. The more you are able to allow yourself to adjust (even if it is painfully hard), the better.
We have appreciated all the warm wishes, offers of support, totally divine interventions (they have restored our faith in community and humanity in many ways), and moments of joy that have helped us begin to heal. It will be a process that will never really end. And I ask that you keep my mother-in-law and brother-in-laws in your prayers.
So in the following weeks, we have laid low. Finishing the final items on our list before the baby arrives, enjoying quiet dinners out on our balcony, foot rubs (lots of them – even ones I’ve given my husband), and s’mores on the 4th of July (SO GOOD!). We’ve taken things a day at a time.
We could have never expected all that has happened in the past year. But it has caused Joe and I re-visit our vows. We have to remind ourselves we are still in our first year of marriage – and it is nothing like what we expected! Come on – let’s be honest – we thought it would be a bit more, well, fun (I’m being honest here!).
Yet in the midst of all the change – some positive and some we wouldn’t wish on an enemy – we have been so thankful for each other. If anything, we have learned just how blessed we are to have each other – for better or worse. By nature, we are optimistic realists. We look for the positive, the strengths, the opportunities – but with expectations in focus.
For very different reasons, we have had to use our individual strengths to help support one another this summer. One to help prepare for a new life – and one to help grieve a death. Talk about a somber lesson for newlyweds.
So as July begins, we look to a new year – a new life – and new lessons. A year we are certain will only continue to validate our vows and the blessing of having each other. Here’s to you honey! I’d say, “I do,” all over again! If we can make it through this first year, we can handle the curves life throws us.